"Marriage today has become a failed institution because our society has failed to “learn how to be married.” People take it too lightly and treat it as a convenience rather than a spiritual covenant. Marriage is an awesome institution when it works but can be devastating to lives when it doesn’t."
People don’t realize that marriage is the hardest commitment for anyone to make.
They often treat marriage as a relief from guilt feeling or a covenient way to get out of the scuttlebutt rather than treating it as a spiritual covenant.
People are thinking how they can benefit from the marriage rather than how to meet the needs of their spouse and improve the lives of each member of the family.
Most couples don’t discuss their goals for the marriage or even ask WHY they are getting married. They don’t discuss issues of how they will raise their children, where they will live, how to budget their income, etc. They just rush into things like its a finish line.
Failed marriages are often the result of poor planning because the couple has not yet discovered, until it is too late, that they are not compatible to marry each other.
Communication is mandatory if you want to get to know the person with whom you will spend the rest of your life.
If one cant tell what his/her needs are, what irritates him/her, what his/her sexual needs are, how they feel, how they relate to each other, their weaknesses, they will feel as though their emotional nudity will result in rejection.
Fairy Tale Story
Falling inlove or being Inlove is not enough reason to get married. You can’t live on love alone because what are you going to do when you don’t feel as though you are in love with your spouse at any time?
There has to be more than love to proceed to marriage—a plan needs to be created. You need to determine what you want to accomplish in your future marriage and not just jump into it because you have the urge to merge. Ask yourself, “why am I wanting to marry this person?” 
This is Marriage. More than any paper
Think about it, theres no rush.
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